Well, today started out as a great day…. beautiful weather… a James bond show to walk on the treadmill… … absolutely perfect until i read a bully email sent to me yesterday at 10:fifty something….   then a few more bully emails… then horrible phone conversations… and wham…. a horrible day… me in tears.. with my stomach all in knots… feeling just as horrible as when karne kahel would bully me or show up trespassing in my complex… and the thing of it is.. who ever keeps doing all of this does it on purpose.. they know exactly when and how to harm or bully or inflict pain on someone.. on me… could someone be that petty that they are
so jealous of me having a great family… or of being happy… or of
having great business ideas… or plans… they have to be so childish.. to steal a business….

I didn’t want to bring this  entire story into this blog.. especially since it is all about God being in control..in him being able to make great and wonderful experiences happen…   in him being able to find this perfect guy for me… the perfect guy for me with out all the drama… and with hardly any issues or problems since i really don’t want  to deal with any…

Get this…  some horrible human being tried firing me from my own business….  yesterday…  yep, sent me a bully email using my mother’s email address… when I called the police they said that an unlocked router can actually be accessed to send emails… so voila… her renters… now or from before… or her baby sitters… now or from before… who don’t want to share the jobs… or want things to change…  or even some disgruntled employees. from possibly from even a hotel… or even that girl from Ohio state who enjoys bulling other girls… 

using my mother’s email address… trying to cause conflict and damage between a family and a business.. some evil and vile people not taking responsibility for their own poor behavior and their horrid and pathetic excuse of human existence  but trying to blame it on  someone as innocent and wonderful as my mother…. my mother and my family absolutely love me… they would never in a million years ever harm me or torment me like these girls have done… i will say it now for the record.. these people  so guilty of inflicting emotional distress.. of harming a business and of trying to damage relationships…  i know i can never forgive them….

The show Mean Girls…   these girls are sooo much worse than that… they are criminal in their pursuit of harming others… their diabolical and methodical way of harming another human being .. of breaking them down to tears.. after anger.. with no remorse… the intentional  infliction of emotional distress…  like having a cell phone with a caller id that is backward from my mother… Gregory Marion… instead of Marion Gregory… the Gregory Marion caller id… horrid… … a rotten person on that phone line  not only a liar… but but the actual method of torture….this girl or boy will get me upset then tape phone messages so they can play them to people or back to myself…Seriously,  who hasn’t been upset after being bullied for hours.. for having mean and damaging and emails sent …. who wouldn’t be affected…
If anyone has any idea how to stop them please let me know…. I’ve contacted the police, an attorney… sent emails, phone calls… anything trying to let people know the damage these people have done… and are continuing to do… i wold love some assistance in stopping them… i even contacted a person who was a former FBI and worked as a private investigator…  

It’s horrible to meet and have to deal with human beings who really should be locked up and in jail… who lie and cheat and steal…  who pretend to be something they are not… not just identity theft… but something far more sinister…. something i never want to be a part of… sick people who play games with people’s lives… with out any remorse…

This guy who started all of this in 2003…Gerard Alher…. really horrible human being…( if you can call him human) .  I sure wouldn’t … ever call him anything close to human….

you know when you first start asking someone about themselves… trying to sauce out if they would be someone with similar values.. or morals.. or even likes or interests…  he actually had the nerve when i asked him if he did something he was proud of in his life… to say ….. yes……. I thought maybe he would say something like helping some children from St. Judes hospital … or giving money to a great charity… but no …..you won’t believe what his answer was…

He said when he and his “friends” were chasing some girl…  she wrecked her car and became a paraplegic… and even though he never slept with her he paid her bills… can you believe that??????? … the guy didn’t even blink or show any sign of remorse… or feelings for actually ruining another human beings life…. not one moment of caring or compassion about how this girl will never be able to live out her hopes and dreams… of how she will never be able to walk or maybe ever be able to even feed herself… or live any normal life… not like she had before meeting his destructive person…
one action that can’t be undone..  they had a choice …..to harm her or not… to harm her..  but instead of having morals or ethics or values… those selfish individuals.. decided to go ahead..  have some fun… use a person for their own benefit… who cares right?  who would notice right?…. and so made choices that  were responsible for the destruction of a girls life.. of a family… and not a single sign of remorse… he didn’t even mention he was sorry….that it affected his life and changed him into being a better human .. no… he was actually  proud of having paid the bills… remember the question… right?  this was was he was most proud of in his life…. of having accomplished..  his answer to being  good to another human being to making a positive difference in someone’s life…  of course after chasing  this girl causing an accident a girl and ruining her life…

( hummmm wonder if they bullied her before that  “on purpose accident” ….)  anyway taking about begin scared and frightened and horrified on a “date”… no lets not call it a date… please …. meeting him and his con artist group was actually the worst thing ever to happen to me in my life…

 I actually think that night he offered me one thousand dollars to give up the rights to my gingerbread man story… HA! no way.. my gingerbread man story will have a wonderful story book ending….    An absolutely wonderful guy… with amazing family and friends.. who will get to meet my amazing family and friends… hopefully I wont be a quadriplegic or dead or something by then…

 Did I mention he did mention his partner was killed and he had to be interrogated all day one day… … but them that was in  Brooklyn new york.. and he claimed his family was somehow connected to the Mafia… probably all lies.. but defiantly one person i wish i had never in my life ever met ever……  him and karen kahel… Ugg… two people i wish i had never met in my life…

Can you imagine these horrible  women who manipulate and  conscientiously  and calculatingly go about and intentionally harming people…. they must not have any idea idea of the consequence of their actions…right?

Can people really be that evil?

I  mean I hope that they have no idea of how much damage they cause…  and the thing that gets me to the core of my  being… is why…. why ??? for a business??? there was this family from the check republic who used to hire nannies from the Chek republic each year they would get a new nanny… each year one of the nanny’s would find a guy and get married.. don’t know if that was each and everyone of them but most of them… one of the nannies told me there was this guy who wanted to start a business like my mom’s still cant find out who it was…….

If anyone has any leads on who may be wanting to either steal or ruin my mom and my business.. please let me know….

 I know this one guy who i got a referral from the chek nannies…  named Johnathan… was supposed to do computer work for the family’s  company… he came over and was going help me with my computer.. wasn’t able to fix anything but was able to use this metal case attach it to my hard drive.. and i think got all my original files from my our business… ( my mom and mine)  business… scary right?… you let someone into your life expecting them to be these good and great help and they can borrow copies of your files…. which in turn can copy a business… which can  no only damage your  business… but it feels like a betrayal like insider trading… stealing  to copy a business…. or worse yet…
like that one horrible date… someone like that could damage your entire life….

The thing that is so funny.. is that  since my mom is an entrepreneur… and i had the extreme pleasure of seeing her create the amazing MET business…. I’ve been working  on business since I was 10-12 years old… while  growing up in Saudi Arabia.. we were creative in so many ways… we would bring in items like bubble yumm… ( remember that stuff?)  and sometimes give it away or sell it… or the  new and  music..  or crafts…. really when you have a mind for business when you see an opportunity its so much fun to try to fill the niche…

One attempt at a business with a friend started in her kitchen…   peanut brittle… we laughed so hard when we were making it … and we were so enthusiastic… made a sample plate to take to the teacher’s lounge… slight problem… we let everyone get so full of the samples… HA! but we took a concept… made the product and even marketed it…. not so bad at age 11 I think… I mean Warren Buffett bought his first stock at 14 right?

But what I was trying to get at.. why steal a business? Can some people who have no creativity.. no imagination.. no business sense and no morals to boot… actually have to go around and steal or ruin a business  are there so many people who can’t take a concept and through honest means create a business plan… take  the right steps to  market a product….and with the right connections  and financing… create a thriving business????…

What type of person would have to  be so stupid that they couldn’t think of something original… but would have to steal a business already in operation… not only shows such lack of moral character but had to be of such a low intelligence… right?    

So, as of tonight…. and the lies about me being fired from  my own business…  UNTRUE  and such a lie… whoever today was bulling and damaging my life…   the new profession i am supposed to change and do in my life is be a nurse….and not an assistant director of a babysitting business or of the etiquette school…. and whomever  will basically bully  me into being a nurse whether I want it or not… and in doing so will then go right ahead and steal the business i worked to help my mother maintain….  I actually had worked these past two  years without a pay check..  was even working toward helping it to become the million $ business… who knows… working within the hotel industry.. wouldn’t it be great to have made it into a franchise…

When I look back…  wonder if  that one ucky  guy Gerard started doing this sort of thing  when i had my faux painting business…  he did have Proline Contracting…..at the time…  UCK!!!!! It makes me shudder just to think of it…. if any one has any proof let me know!!!

My last bit of horror story for this evening… NEVER ALLOW bad people into your lives!!!!

SO ….  A NICE QUOTE TO END THIS MANIPULATED AND HORRIBLE EVENING….  I actually had this on my screen saver in 1999….

“IF ONE ADVANCES CONFIDENTLY IN THE DIRECTION OF HIS DREAMS AND ENDEAVORS TO LIVE THE LIFE WHICH HE HAS IMAGINED HE WILL MEET WITH A  SUCCESS UNEXPECTED IN COMMON HOURS” HENRY DAVID THOREAU

“Do you ever feel like a chess piece yourself in a game being played against your will”
“Do you”
“Constantly, I see then them leaning in and moving me around the board”
“Seize hold of my skirts and drag me from square to square”
“Then you had better master the rules of the game until you can play it better than they can”

“I should find one ( husband) to play it with you not for you ”

Love this quote from the movie… “The young Victoria” it takes place while victoria and her “beau”  are playing chess…. interesting to feel like your life is not entirely you own….that the people who should have your best interests at heart…. have their own interests and quite selfish interests at that….

it plays to the  idea  of whom can you trust….  what is their true motivation….. and why on earth should  someone decide…. or for that matter…. be allowed to believe  that  people are to be toyed with…  that average or normal people are so nondescript that they are replaceable… that their lives are substitutable… that they are just pieces of a game…. and a game for whom?????

Say someone is the same height… possibly the same weight… and has the same hair color… does that give anyone the right  to dismiss their unique attributes?… their own desires for their own particular  future?….. their own goals or dreams?……. Don’t you believe that each individual has been put on this earth for a unique experience… that their lives have been a culmination of all their life experiences… and they are today….. at this very moment the person they are because of the experiences.. whether good or bad… they are who they are based in part by  the people they are surrounded with … and the advice they are given.. or even  the knowledge they are allowed to ascertain…. and the choices they were allowed to make….  yes i believe that each person has their own personality and their own way of handeling any given situation that is normally unique…  but honestly…. when you know better you do better…. ( think that  was even a quote from oprah HA)  but just because someone looks like someone else… they are still their own unique individual self… even twins are not always exacty alike…. right?

So the theory that any  one person is replaceable by another?… ludicrous….that any girl can be …. what?……. put into a “box” to be “used”….as a replacement part for any other girl with the same height or weight or hair color????? That one girl is no different than the other.. what if they even looked similar… or had a similar name….or could dress alike….   are people  so dispensable that  the very life they live doesn’t matter?….. that the very history they live doesn’t mater… that the very future they want doesn’t matter?

I mean really…… who would be so vile and arrogant  to believe themselves so superior to think that they had the right to  “move people like pieces on a chess game….” to be able to replace one girl for another…. one family for another…. one history for another…. one life for another….  egoistical doesn’t even begin to describe the type of personality besides some very criminal implications of identity theft… the ramifications for playing “GOD” are usually detrimental….

Absolutely Love this quote…. as kind of a hobby… i love to find great quotes…. like one i have pinned on my monitor…

“watch you thoughts they become words watch your words they become actions watch your actions they become habits watch your habits they become character … watch your character it becomes your destiny….” 

October 15th 2010  forward written by MaryJean Ziska for a  book to give to Marion Jean Ziska-Gregory  b-day June 12th 2009/

Dear Mom, to a woman with all the answers, all my love and all my admiration- your/talents and amazing personality has been an inspiration to me growing up- I’ve admired your grace, and your ability to make life and those around you happy and  so loved….
You gave your daughters the gift of yourself.. of enduring love and the grace you possess… the laughter you instill, the joy you bring to others,.. the adventure of a lifetime has been growing up and having a mother as wonderful as you… Happy birthday Luv,  Mary Jean Ziska  

Harvard blog entry: 
Question/comment:  What is your relationship with adversity?  What role has it played in becoming who you are- in forging your essential character and mindset?  How has it influenced your optimism, energy, opportunities, relationships health, performance capacity ad leaps of faith>? Can you think of any force that has been more profoundly formative?  

 my answer by mary jean Ziska:

 complete essay to follow… answer to last question… concerning formative force… more powerful than adversity..  love/ passion/ support/  more powerful than adversity… adversity tears down breaks apart destroys spirits/ dreams/ hopes.. love on the other hand.. 

Quote:  “Perfect love casts out all fears and opens the doors for endless possibilities”

luv mary jean ziska

The book “For my mother keepsake of thanks and memories of growing up”

Question:  The time i missed you most was….

Now…. Even though you have always been close to my heart I’ve missed your physical presence your daily updates, your laughter your sharing  your unconditional love and the way you made my life seem somehow important and made me feel so very well loved..

Somehow growing up you made me feel important, you helped me to feel validated, and needed but most importantly you always made me feel loved-even miles away in boarding school you sent your love and i just new you were there to be my hero and my champion no matter what … when traveling internationally your reminders kept me close to you in my heart – when love seemed to be absent from anyone i cared for you were always there .. so i never missed  you  before now… it was not having you here for my 43rd birthday that made me really miss you when you actually do pass away i will miss your presence always luv mary jean ziska
 

For my mother:  the page/question is …..

I liked to watch you(my mother) while you were …..  

Escorting people on tours and I was traveling with you.  It showed me what a strong, amazing woman you were.  It taught me that women could be successful and that all things were possible! 

You were able to not only command a room and make sure everything was done to your specifications but the opportunities that were presented to you were outstanding  to I remember going to tea with the Masai tribe… when no one else was invited, to go and see outstanding exhibits at the jewelry stores in India, special tours, and  special services….

The entire time you were able to make everything look so easy and effortless… when problems cropped up you created solutions and you made me believe that when there was a will there was a way and when you wanted something accomplished you always made it happen! 

I felt you could accomplish anything… I was so proud of you as “the boss” my mother and a woman.. somehow you balance and juggled everything and did it with style humor and grace.. yet you always accomplished your goals and achieved your dreams.. and always helped your three  daughters to do the same.. I love you for being exactly who you are/were…. no one can take your place.. and your as unique as every sunrise and sunset.. luv mary jean ziska

another question:  for my mother “My favorite way to spend time with you alone was…”

When we had our own trips/tours When we went to Mount Everest and neither  of my sisters  got to go  on that trip! I loved spending special moments/I remember being in India at Suffering Moses and seeing the painting on the paper mache  boxes the wood factory taking the shakara boat down these narrow rivers … the carpet factory… being with you while shopping  in Rome in Paris…. all over the world.. But especially when you seemed to take the time to care and spend special time with me.. I felt the whole world must have known how much you loved me.. I remember  sitting on the edge of your bed telling you of my daily adventures you seemed to have all the time and patience  in the world  to hear my “he said/ she said” play by play of what was going on who liked who and how I felt about it-
You picked out special trinkets from trips or even when you started my doll collection/ or stamp collection…or even when you made sure I had everything I could possibly need at boarding school… the care the time you spent and the love I felt and the gratitude I always told you ( even while with a strep throat on Mt Everest!HA!) I knew you made my life so very special and that i was valuable and loved and even lovable because you always not only told  us but showed us…

Evenings conversations over hot tea (with milk and honey)  even time spent at the make up counter.. or out to lunch or whenever you told me a special story of my childhood, of your childhood and shared your dreams.. All those moments I will always treasure… luv mary jean ziska   

To my mother ( Marion Jean Gregory): from Mary Jean Ziska
answer to the question:  one of the best and most formative experiences that happened to me was….

Mom, one of the best and most formative experiences that happened to me was the knowledge that i was really wanted, really valued and really loved.  Knowing the security of a mother and father team who made me feel loved, secure, and cherished helped me to grow into an adult who knew who to love people- to cherish them to value them and to show them my depth of affection for them …. I think  the quote is true about “how a child learns”

 Now onto some really positive topics… does anyone follow Forbes blogs?…. there  was a really great  article concerning posts by women… twitter or blogs cant remember… anyway…(I”ll check my files and insert the full info in a few)  a few caught my eye…one was called start up princess    o.k. better check my facts before i write anything else… but it was wonderful… and the most wonderful ideas such wonderful women sharing their  mentoring experience…  what a great and wonderful  collaborative group of women…. now these are wonderful human beings… instead of tearing people down.. they actually build up people and their businesses… they don’t think lack.. they think of the world be so bountiful and wonderful that they can share their knowledge can help to see other businesses grow… another great mentoring and wonderful opportunity i found…   is an organization Make mine a million dollar $
and of course i need to also give huge applause to my sorority… Kappa Alpha Theta… i really think sororities are such wonderful group of women who actually help each other.. actually want to see their members succeed… and want them to be happy isn’t that so nice compared to bullies and women or girls or even boys or men who make such vile choices of harming others….

I am not marketing any organization that i mention.. i honestly ( and I am honest… don’t lie or cheat or steal ) just found these groups or websites or  whatever i mention.. to be really nice.. informative… helpful and i really like and appreciate them… you may disagree… but then you may just agree as well!

Speaking of honesty… i had tried writing about these women who will lie to get a guy… I’m not exactly talking about the women who get pregnant on purpose to entrap a man.. but i”m sure that happens as well.. but just the ones who lie… you know…like in 27 dresses… when the younger sister becomes a vegetarian… or likes outdoor sports…. when in reality she doesn’t… you know those type of women… I’m sure anyone who has seen the move will hopefully recognize the type… so why cant these women just be who they are… if they don’t want to go hiking.. then find a guy who want s to fly them to France to go have hot chocolate  at cafe de Paris… right next to the Monte Carlo casino.. right? Is it that they think their aren’t enough great guys out there? or that they have to make themselves into someone else… that a guy won’t like them “just as they are””…… 
or guys… why put girls through a series of test to see if they survive…. don’t you think that life will hand you a series of tests that you can actually  conquer together.. isn’t that the point of being a couple…. yes of course….. i am thinking gingerbread man….

Today I received a horrid /evil bully email! The second in two weeks defaming my character, my reputation and trying to ruin relationships with my family… all lies of course but damaging  just the same… put me in tears… and shaking and stomach hurting… needless to say.. horrid and damaging emails… but i mentioned in a previous blog entry… about evil and meting it face to face… there is a website i found called www.bullicide.org concerning epidemic of bullies in America- bullies primarily bulling children but what happens to these bullies when they grow up?  do they ever grow up? Some of their victims have killed themselves in an attempt to escape their tormentors… but does that stop the problem? No I don’t think so I think they  continue to bully… they start as children then remain bullies because no one has the guts to stop them so they grow up into adult bullies and who do they pick on when they are adults… well, some vicious evil women will be evil to women… they will try to make others look bad so they themselves will look better- mature? no of course no but these are not nice people… somehow their twisted minds they feel the need to put others down .. maybe it is the sense of power they feel when they see another human brought to tears.. I mean I think i mentioned the girl with the long white blond hair from Ohio state karen kahel and how she bullied me to tears after trespassing into my complex to go running… she actually jumped up and down proclaiming she won she won as if it was a game or a conte4st or some kind of sport to see if she could harm another human being.. to see another human in tears crouched over ready to throw up shaking as the tormentor ( karen kahel ) knowing full well the infliction of emotional distress she was putting me through  laughed and happily ran back to her complex Carlton lakes in Naples Florida. Where were the consequences for her actions… none… anyone i spoke with wanted me to just take it… to just not cry… or get upset… as if it was my responsibility for being the victim… when she intentionally made a choice to inflict harm… she was a grown woman who could have chosen not to harm me …. but instead she decided to bully to make me cry and to laugh about it… to actually jump up and down… happy that he inflicted harm on me … so i believe since there were no consequences for her actions… she of course would and probably does…continue in her evil behavior… what is she teaching her son?  will he be the next generation of bully… will he not only bully others but grow up and really harm society.. one has to wonder right? 

I am trying to figure out why… maybe it is all the weddings going on in Naples this weekend…  its whomever would know that i don’t  recover from such bulling quickly…  maybe,  so i wouldn’t go to my favorite hotel( THE RITZ) with tear stained cheeks or blood shot eyes… or maybe i met someone some girl likes ?  Who can ever figure out why anyone ( bullies ) cant see past their own selfish intentions and actually grow up or develop a kind loving heart.. be someone who can make a contribution  to good or of great merit to society… instead of evil… instead of selfish… and the really sad part its not just one person… there are many many bullies out their… having many many victims… seeking out people who were once nice,  sweet, kind, thoughtful,  considerate who had great families and helped others …had goals and dreams… 

Maybe it is a “”wanna be”” you know the type.. a person without  a real personality or any real life to speak of… maybe someone who feel inferior  in themselves for not having traveled or accomplished anything.. someone who sees another person’s life and instead of working to achieve it… would steal it through mockery… through copying there taste in clothing.. or even steal their clothes or make themselves look like someone… with haircuts or whatever…. I was always raised  that individual style and taste… are valuable are characteristics that create character and personality… one’s unique personality and character…. that make a person who they are.. are vital to their personal growth and are like a part of their soul…   

You know come to think of it… after i created my email address [email protected]”  someone copied it and made up an email address of [email protected]  I know because i tried to contact this person to see if I could buy it from her…anyway.. no response… but i had thought it so clever since i had seen the movie “Something about Mary” had loved seeing Cameron  and have had a short bob hair cut on and off for ages…  

HUMMMM wonder if any of these bullies could be these girls?…. you know the “”wanna be girls””but actually it is more like …like  identity theft…. right?  or remember that one movie  where Bridget Fonda gets a roommate who ends up ruining her life… cant for the life of me remember the name of it.. but you know the one right?  

Any way…. If you see anyone who is being  bullied… what will you do?
If anyone has any reason why someone would do such horrid things to another  please comment and let me know… 
For me… i believe to sue for damages concerning   defamation of character/slander and libel….   are a very viable solution to at least stop a few people….  and having a few less bullies or criminals in  this world could only make the world a better place….   luv mary jean ziska

PS

Wonderful show on CNBC this evening… How I Made My Millions  so inspirational… a bit similar to a show The Big Idea that I also loved….. along with Shark Tank…  shows that promote entrepreneurs… their endeavors… their success and how they did it.. and what thy are doing now and so many times how they gave back…I think I mentioned in a blog entry my concerns about evil people…how do they  get away with criminal behavior.. how  they exist and worse yet how do they thrive. On the positive side.. the  shows I mentioned were great. To me they are inspirational… success and benefits of success can do so much not only for an individual.. or a family but when giving back… they are such a wonderful part of allowing others to be a part of a positive trend that will allow people to find and follow their passions… and in turn success will breed more success…. and following your passion will definitely bring you happiness…

Funny thing about me being  able to turn  a hobby into a business… even though it was a stepping stone .. I knew it was just that… a stepping stone…  I knew there was more to learn… other enterprises to establish.. and other goals to achieve… both personal and professional goals.

The original plan was to  take what I had learned from the faux painting business and go to Interior Design School… I even checked on classes  and met with an advisor ….twice…  It is still something I would like to do… Interior Design School or classes… but I started working with my mother to assist her in her babysitting business… I saw all the potential.. all  the untapped avenues… I can still see so many possibilities…. in these businesses so much potential for growth and for revenue… and for the fun of networking and even  additional businesses…in conjunction with what she started… its exciting to see all the possibilities…

We even started working together on her plan to open an etiquette school…  you can check out the information in the websites… www.atenderlovingcareservice.com  or www.atlcprep.com….