Here is a thought boys…. perhaps when a girl doesn’t want to sleep with you..it doesn’t mean she is gay.. or even that there is something “wrong” with the girl… it means that she is not ( and i repeat …NOT atracted to you…. ) that maybe your are not someone she thinks is attractive … to her….
that doesn’t mean that the guy isnt attractive to someone else… but perhaps she has always liked tallish guys… who are thin and have an athletic build… who make her feel safe.. and protected.. or perhaps she thinks that piercing blue eyes are memorizing… and she loves light hair and only wants to date caucausian guys… it is just her perference… in the physical looks department.. and her right to pick who she wants… and who or what she likes… jsut as he is able to pick the “physical type” of girl he is attracted to… but that doesn’t mean that they can’t be friends…. unless the guy has never been able to be a friend to a girl….
so concerning the topic of friends and guys and girls being able to be friends… like in “when harry met sally”…. harry believed that guys and girls can’t be friends… but once he matured in the movie… and understood what a real relationship needed to survive… and understood what love actually was…. he actaully found that this girl who he actually was attracted to and was a friend… and most imposrtantly she was likewise attracted to him… was the person that she /he were meant to be together… but for a long time they were friends…. like real friends.. able to “hang out” have conversations… and able to be there for each other… in great times and in bad times… wow… really refreshing right?
and then there is the entire personality part of a compatible relationship…. but wait.. i think that the type of guy who believes that a girl must be gay because she does not want any guy to put his hands on her…. or to rub up against her.. or to show unwated affections… this type of guy…. jsut will never get it… ohhhh wellll….. too bad…. anyway….
so guys… i know your ego is fragil.. and you may not understand that not every girl likes the same type of guy… don’t take it soooo personally… can’t you jsut be a freind with a girl?… i mean if you actaully respect her… and like the way she thinks or acts.. or her kindess.or her way with children.. or her ambition.. or anything that actually lasts… maybe you will realize that looks dont stay teh same… … and if somemoen doen’t want to be “played with” that doesn’t necessarily mean that the girl is boring… jsut that she has different wants and needs in a relationship.. maybe grown up attitudes about maintaing and sustaining a real relationship not based on just the physical act of sex… especilly if she is not interested in having sex with some random guy… get over it… its like the movie.. “she is not into you”… HA!… wait the movie title is actaully “he’s not that into you”… but it still appllies if you switch the gender around…
mabye it takes a different way of thinking about women.. and about love and about relationships… romantic and freindship…and everythng inbetween….. in that case… be a real friend and let the girl find her real prince charming.. and real perfect match or gingerbreadman…. and be happy for her when she does… because there is someone out there… who is made just for you… jsut maybe ….. not me… or many other girls but some girl will do it for you…
its like the scummy guy who liked to scare me.. the brooklyn new york guy who ruined my life… who want honset or trustworthy and was jsut plain criminal and bad…. a bit like one of the “thug” new jersey types… who talks too loud.. and had no common interests.. with me… but for some reason .. thinks that all woman love him… you know the arrogant type.. uneducated.. and very primal…. like a caveman.. who hunts girls as prey… and believes that all the girls in the world are put on earth for him…. UCK>>>>
anyway.. this type of guy is the last person on earth that would ever make me happy or be the type of guy i would think would make a great husband.. or even a friend… but that is jsut me… i’m sure ther is a girl out ther that loves that type of guy… not me…. never me…
i miss my friends and my family…. real friends who help make your hopes me and dreams come true.. and who actually likes me and really loves me…. i’ve really missed them a lot… everyday…. i miss them more and more….