why do people have to put you down to make themselves feel superior?  is it low self esteem… really? or just an evil personality that likes harming or hurting people … like say a bully….. 

the person on the  phone wanted to remind  me that even though my mom and I and my entire family got to live over seas.. got to travel… and had a really great way of growing up….. and got to shop in Paris  and Italy… and shop  all over the world honestly…. really….and this happened when i was only oh say…. 12-14 years old … and that even though my mom had a successful business taking tours to India and Africa and Greece.. and i am so proud of her accomplishments… they wanted to remind me that she started a few businesses here when she moved back to the states in 1982….

In fact even though we were living on the beach in a condo that my parents had purchased… this person on the phone wanted to make it seem like my mother wasn’t very valuable…  her ideas for starting a tender loving care service were forming… and   i do believe she had a notion of starting   few other businesses at the same time….  

its too funny the person on the phone  today must be really insecure…. thinking that a person is one dimensional… my other was not only a wonderful entrepreneur… she was a great artist… writer, creative gift giver, and so talented in so many avenues….. and i trusted her design sense  and her advice on so many aspects of life.. people/ relationships… and making the right choices… she was constantly giving us advice on travel… on making sure we were protected from any types of crimes happening to us  or changing us… … and she would have given her life for any of her three daughters to be happy…. she provided us with an amazing and very comfortable lifestyle and allowed us to see so much of the world… it is hilarious that someone would want to belittle my mother and her accomplishments and who she is and was ….  perhaps she wasn’t  always conventional… but unique is just marvelous….In fact when we went to see Secretariat( sp?)  the woman  who took over her father’s farm… turned everything around… and in the process raced a horse who won! What a woman… right?  but not only was she strong… she was able to instill in her daughters and probably all her children.. that all things are possible… that woman can accomplish a great deal… and that goals can be accomplished and dreams can come true…  a woman like that is amazing… and i had the privilege to see my mother  as that type of woman…  ( personally i loved the way the main character dressed.. always loved a really classic style…. ) but you know what… everyone has their own unique style about them… and you have to love them for exactly who they are….
..  so to the person  who was trying to make my mom into the owner of a cleaning business.. or somehow make it less than wonderful for her to be the owner of  a tender loving care business…  I  don’t know exactly what you were trying to accomplish(.?) Are you the same person who wanted me to talk badly about my sisters? Who by the way I think are amazing…. … but it is …really  hilarious…. 

it actually almost sounded like a  naughty little child who would say NAH… NAH after trying to bully someone … so guess it must be low self- esteen right? to put down another individual who has done nothing to harm them…  or someone who can’t see the entire person for who they are?  Maybe if they think they can make my family look bad or in some way they think it makes them  look better?.. then someone will like them better?  I mean when Karen kahel bullied me to tears  at the front  of my complex… and she jumped up and down saying she won she won….. did she actually believe that by making some one cry… that she was better? that some boy would like her better? because she was a bully…. i think it actually does the reverse… but someday when justice is accomplished.. and people are held accountable for their transgressions…. someday…. maybe…..someday…..    HA!!!