Here is a thought boys…. perhaps when a girl doesn’t  want  to sleep with you..it doesn’t mean she is gay.. or even that  there is something “wrong” with the girl…   it means that she is not ( and i repeat …NOT atracted to you…. ) that maybe your  are not  someone she  thinks is attractive … to her….

that doesn’t mean that the guy isnt  attractive to someone else… but  perhaps she has always liked tallish guys… who are thin and have an athletic build…  who  make her feel safe.. and protected.. or perhaps she thinks that piercing blue eyes are  memorizing… and she loves light hair  and only  wants to date caucausian guys…  it is just her perference…  in the physical looks  department.. and her right to pick who she wants…  and who or what she likes…  jsut as he is able to  pick  the “physical type” of girl he is attracted to…  but that doesn’t mean that they  can’t be friends…. unless the guy has never been able  to be a friend  to a girl…. 

so concerning the  topic of  friends  and guys and girls being  able to be friends… like  in  “when harry met sally”….  harry believed that guys and girls can’t be friends… but once he matured in the movie…  and understood what a real relationship needed to survive… and understood what love actually was….  he actaully found that  this girl who he actually was attracted to and was a friend… and most imposrtantly she was likewise  attracted to him… was the person  that she /he were meant to be together…   but  for a long time they were friends….  like real friends.. able to “hang out” have conversations… and able to be there for each other… in great times and in bad times…    wow… really refreshing right? 


and then there is the entire  personality  part of a compatible relationship…. but wait.. i think that  the type of guy who believes that a girl must be gay because she does not want any guy to  put his hands on her…. or to rub up against her.. or to show unwated affections…  this  type of guy…. jsut will never get it…   ohhhh wellll….. too bad…. anyway….      

so guys…  i know your ego is fragil.. and   you may not understand that not every girl likes the same type of guy…  don’t  take it soooo personally…    can’t you jsut be a freind with a girl?… i mean if you actaully respect her… and  like  the way she thinks or acts.. or her kindess.or her way with children.. or her ambition.. or anything that actually lasts…  maybe you will realize that  looks dont  stay teh same… … and  if somemoen  doen’t  want to be “played with” that doesn’t  necessarily mean that  the girl is boring… jsut that she has different wants and needs in a relationship.. maybe grown up attitudes about  maintaing and sustaining a real relationship not  based on just  the physical act of sex…  especilly if  she is not interested in having sex with  some random guy…  get over it… its like  the movie.. “she is not into you”… HA!… wait  the movie title is actaully  “he’s not that into you”… but it still appllies  if you switch the gender around…  

mabye it takes a different way of thinking about women.. and about love and about  relationships… romantic and freindship…and everythng inbetween….. in that case… be a real friend and let the girl find her real prince charming.. and real   perfect match or gingerbreadman…. and be happy for her when she does… because there is someone  out there… who is made just  for you…  jsut maybe ….. not me… or many other girls but some girl will  do it for you… 

its like the scummy guy who liked  to scare me.. the  brooklyn new york guy who ruined my life… who want honset or trustworthy and was jsut plain criminal and bad…. a bit like  one of the “thug” new jersey types… who talks too loud.. and had no common interests.. with me… but for some reason .. thinks that all woman  love him…  you know the arrogant type.. uneducated.. and very primal…. like a caveman.. who hunts girls as prey… and believes that all the girls in the world are put on earth for him…. UCK>>>>

anyway.. this type of guy is the last person on earth that would ever make me happy or be the type of guy i would  think would  make a great husband..   or even a friend…  but that is jsut me…  i’m sure ther is a girl out ther that loves  that type of guy… not me…. never me… 

i miss my friends and my family…. real friends who help  make your hopes and dreams come true.. and who actually like me  and really love me…. i’ve really missed them a lot…    everyday…. i miss them more  and more….