Sunday June 05th 2011 (twisting words…phone conversations trying to make someone( me ) into a horrid person….. why?)

 I  know i’ve mentioned selfish people before…  and mentioned horrid phone calls before.. but i wanted to mention Joel Osteen’s sermon today…  about  using words to encourage people.. using words to compliment people… and using words to make a person feel better… to change their day possibly change their lives…

 So i have had some people who have made a huge impact on my life by the encouragement they have given me at  different time in my life and then of course there have been the bully girls and boys who have done  nothing but damage my life.. mostly to better their own… i guess…  they are just  selfish.. just  petty and mean spirited .. just rotten to the core.. the people  who twist a conversation into  the wrong conversation.. a bunch of  really horrid girls  who try to continually make me  into this horrid person…. nonsense and lies by twisting what  was  said and how it was said… ..

just today…  i tried to call my mom on 239-598-1515 to tell about a few movies or television programs i thought she might like to see… and to discuss…  or WSJ articles she might like to  talk about….  there was  a movie that i thought she had seen ages ago  and would appreciate that was on the television this morning while i was on the treadmill…  it was with sally field  called “not without my  daughter”  really touching how loyal and devoted this mother was  to bringing her self and her daughter back to America… amidst such a very harsh time period in history…
The way i grew up in Saudi was very different… especially since we were in  an American compound run  by  the oil company…. and both my parents are American…. though we had friends from all over the world… and   got to travel everywhere as well…

anyway… we Skyped and used the phone and  then i got to Skype with Scott… which was nice…   There was this really horrid show about gypsies and travelers… and their  weddings.. and i just had to call and see if my mom had seen it..   the conversation started out alright.. then the conversation got completely twisted… whoever it was on the  phone was trying to make me sound like i was  this horrible daughter…   when in fact we had had a lovely day watching television movies… and even the sunday when she came over and i bought  all these groceries and made both chicken and lamb.. and got her a  cake…  the whole day was fine… was fine until i tried to speak  with her when she was on her second nap of the day…. and she wasn’t acting  like my mom… and i told her so.. and then she wanted to leave…  she even twisted it around to say that i told her to leave.. which i never did….. and this conversation was brought  up on the phone.  and twisted…all around without a moment to defend y self or to say what actually happened…  anyway.. the clever nasty girl on the phone..     then tried to make it sound like i was just mean to my mother.. so i had to remind her the i bought her a cake .. i was the one who took my mom to the Ritz for different holidays.. and bought her presents.. and wrote her all the beautiful cards she has displayed at  her house.. and wrote all the beautiful inscriptions into the books i gave her that  still remain in her  house …

So due to the conversation that wasn’t all that nice…instead of having a phone message of 4 businesses.. i now have a  phone message to my mother’s house that had one message…  and a girl who cackling about how she/ manipulated my life again  probably for the worse right?

when i got to Skype Scott.. and he recognized that i was the original Mary jean Ziska…. its nice to have someone  a friend to recognize me.. instead of the imposters who are not only stealing from my mom.. and from my life and from my business…  

It was also the same person who is bent on making sure that people thinking  the  babysitting  business is her  and only hers… so this brings me to another topic.. about  how  this evil person who is stealing my mother’s business… and has been…. and has used funds intended to make her business and her life better.. for god only knows what…..for example:     ages ago i had someone on the phone make this executive decision to make up new business cards without my mother’s name on them… an without my name  on them… but using the information from her business..   and thus being able to use the company  liability insurance or  what ever it is someone who  steals identities… and I’m assuming now that they steal business identities as well….  So will they be able to  use her liability insurance?  or claim they are the owner or the daughter of the owner?  

Gerard”s  friend from Boston who live d in Marco island…  told me that is what not only Gerard  did this type of scam to steal businesses…  but a company who was a home watch  company had done the same thing… by creating  cards and printed information   using practically the same name …. here is another question..if these criminals have stolen phone numbers… to businesses… by either spoofing or even gaining  access to the voice mail messages.. how long can a legitimate business  last when the criminals are involved? stealing and lying and cheating  everyone out of  a business  hard working and honest people  have put our live our heart and our soul into? 

speaking of twisting conversations…  the person on the phone a couple of times  also mentioned that no one would ever hire me because of the information i put into this blog… that somehow it is my fault  that a bunch of people have stolen from  me.. have lied to me.. and have bullied me… have trespassed… and committed all sorts of crimes and have not been held culpable for any of them .. let alone pay damages or had criminal charges  brought against them  YET…..    the worst part of it.they got away with it.. an no one stopped them.. at least not yet….  but karma.. God… or what ever  you believe…   even joel osteen mentioned speaking nice and  kind words will bring nice and kind words back into your life…  and great people who encourage and support and love you will never   change into mean and horrible people who cut you down or discourage you or lie about you… it just doesn’t work that way….

 so i originally wanted to write about  people who are honest and encouraging… and loving…  and supportive  of your hopes and dreams…  Gloria Fletcher… always told me that he had complete confidence… whatever the situation.. and whether she actually did have complete confidence or not… she told me  she did… whether it was a situation with an old roommate… or a situation in a class or for  project.. or even when i was  dealing with  business or  any situation.. she gave me the confidence to believe in myself… to know that i had problem solving skills.. and to use them to my best  ability…  to create a solution for whatever life might throw my way..

My mother… was another confidence builder and a great dream supporter……. when I  started my  first business… she was right there helping me to make critical decisions.. to tell me everything will be  alright… to encourage me when i didn’t know if i had any talent… and to  tell everyone she knew   about what i was doing and trying to get  to see my portfolio…. HA!  My mom was always there to tell me there was a g
reat guy in my future… that  i deserved a really special and wonderful guy who treated me well… who loved me… and  who could give  me and the family we would create a wonderful life together….

My dad was a man who actually really wanted me to be happy…  he was really proud of how i was independent and went off  to boarding school not acting like  i was afraid… but was  pretty brave … at 14 looking at boarding school as an adventure…. i remember him at the airport ….  giving me a big hug and telling me how proud he was of me… i also remember when i  was grown and had started my own business how  he became my biggest fan…. a business i stated as a hobby… that practically no one thought  i could do.. not because i didn’t have the talent… or the work ethic… or the ambition…  but it seemed to be so uncharacteristic of my personality….    but he always thought i could accomplish  any project… and when he saw finished projects.. i think he was as amazed as i was at times…HA!    

My friend pattie berndt, she was sooo supportive of my starting my own business.. of learning  the ins  and outs of turning my hobby into a business.. and so supportive  of giving  me mentors and clients…

.My sister  Maura…

My sister Mattie……